I remembered how the guys at work debated on one of the female celebrity. Chance was, her father was our patient. I thought, she was one hot looking girl. Yet the guys are hard to please I must say. Such high standards!
Once I overheard on the radio of a hijab awareness programme taking place in the near future. They mentioned on the focus of what donning hijab really entails. I must congratulate their efforts as I do feel when I was a lot younger, I used to be what I painfully admit, a follower. I took on the hijab at the age of 13 because it was made compulsory at school, only to realize that Mummy dearest won’t tolerate the on-and-off hijab policy. (what did I tell ya about being a follower?) So sulking back then, I did. Kept it on. And alhamdulillah, til now.
Despite having donned the hijab for more than 17 years now, I must admit I have only began to understand the beauty of it. I mean, I did for the sake of Allah.. in hope I am pleasing him by fulfilling what He asks of me. The perspective changed a couple of years back when I sat in a sister’s circle in UK. Sister Anees brought up the concept of haya (shyness) *the thought of the word and pronouncing the word actually sent shivers down my spine*. And I have fallen for it since. Nonetheless, not so close in achieving it myself. Sigh.
Prophet Sallallahu alaihiwasallam said: “Haya comes from Eman; Eman leads to Paradise. Obscenity comes from antipathy; and antipathy leads to the fire.” (Sahih Al-Bukhari)
A Muslim woman feels shy to do anything that would displease her Lord in any aspect. She has haya in her talk, she has haya in her gaze, she has haya in her clothing, she has haya in her walk. And I dont mean women being timid, introvert and easily trampled upon. Nor thus wearing only soft pastel colours.
Having haya in our speech in my opinion is to speak honorably. To address issues and people with politeness and tact. Surely a hijabi seen shouting with anger is not really pleasing to the eyes. We are meant to cover up – innerself and outerself.
Her haya in her gaze is that she does not look at what Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala has prohibited for her to look. Not those bewildered eyes. Not those “looking for attention” gazes.
Her haya in her clothing is that she does not reveal to others what Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala has forbidden for her to reveal. And it is meant to shy away others’ attention to us. Hence I find it difficult to agree with hijab styling that is OTT and heavily decked with accessories. When will our society focus on “less is (definitely) more”?
Her haya in her walk is that she walks modestly without attracting others attention towards herself.
..And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And all of you beg Allâh to forgive you all, O believers, that you may be successful. (Surah An-Nur: 31)
Sister Anees’s words that kept echoing in my ears: be that of a muslimah who is a mystery – none of which others see, smell or hear. Be that pearl; kept hidden yet highly treasured.
I was given a copy of the Hijabista magazine last time. I threw it away after page 3. I was nauseated. And I felt a pain within my chest – I really pray our society find beauty through what was prescribed onto us. Modesty.
A woman who has the knowledge of Allah’s commandment to preserve her modesty, submitting herself to the will of her creator, even after having the desire to be praised for her beauty, is without doubt beloved to Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala and as well as to all good believing men. ( taken from islamic thinking)